Friday, May 15, 2026

Do not be proud if you stand firm, but humble yourself and fear.

Hieromartyr Varlaam of Perm (+1942)

 

Archbishop Varlaam

 

Let us suppose that your life is going more or less properly, that you have no great sins, and that for the small ones you bring repentance. Do not even think of ascribing your good order to yourself, to your own effort, attentiveness, or zeal—you are deeply mistaken: before all our efforts goes grace, and without it we are nothing but weakness, nothing but a festering abscess. Therefore, do not be proud of another’s gift, since good order is from God; rather, fear lest you offend God by self-esteem and pride, and receive condemnation like the Pharisee.

You, who are orderly, are sometimes disturbed by the faults of those around you, by their disorderliness, self-love, and inattentiveness toward you, especially if they are your relatives; and you become grieved at them, condemn them in your soul, and perhaps even openly hurl arrows, reproaches, and irritation. But stop, and know yourself: why do you condemn your neighbor for a fault? Perhaps he has not been given the corresponding talent, and so he sins; whereas it has been given to you—but it is not you, but the grace of God, that upholds you. And for what purpose? Is it really so that you may engage in the forbidden condemnation of your neighbor and exalt yourself above him? You are mistaken: every gift is given for the benefit and service of one’s neighbors. By reproach we destroy our neighbor, increasing his wounds and the infirmities of his soul. In such a state, your orderliness is occupied with the destruction of your neighbor. Be horrified at yourself and remember the words of the Apostle: We who are strong ought to bear the infirmities of the weak, and not to please ourselves (Rom. 15:1), but our neighbor, for his salvation (Rom. 15:2).

In self-justification, you may perhaps say: “I do not condemn my neighbor, but when I see that people, even those close to me, treat me unjustly, I leave them in peace and, as far as possible, try to keep away from them.” But tell me: for what was the gift of good order given to you? Was it so that you might complacently admire it and become vainglorious, while despising your neighbor? Then you have neither love for your neighbor nor concern for his salvation; you are occupied with self-admiration. You are an idol to yourself, demanding worship and respect from others. It is not in vain that it is said: he who does not love his neighbor does not love God either; he loves only himself and is a self-idol, abiding in virtuous self-delusion, while in essence remaining far from God and from love for Him.

If you are a father or mother, perhaps in justification of your strictness and exactingness toward your children, you will say: “It is written, Honor thy father and mother, that it may be well with thee” (Deut. 5:16). Yes, but this was said to children; to you something else was said, namely: Fathers, provoke not your children to wrath (Eph. 6:4). And will your proud reproaches and condemnation of their faults awaken love for you in them? By no means. Love is born only through love and condescension, through forgetfulness of one’s “I,” through the crucifixion of one’s self-love for the sake of love for one’s neighbors and care for them.

Therefore, examine yourself: are you serving God with your talent, or have you buried it in the earth of self-love and negligence? If so, fear the lot of the slothful servant.

You will ask: “How am I to serve? Must I really indulge the sinner and make peace with these sores?” Yes, make peace with them; you are not higher than God, and He makes peace with them and even bestows prosperity upon the wicked, waiting thereby to call them to repentance. And who are you? A proud man and a lover of self. For if grace is taken away, you too will prove to be an abyss of vice. It is not in vain that the Holy Church shows this to everyone at Communion in the words: “Of whom I am first” — that is, of sinners. Therefore, use your talent of an orderly life for the knowledge of your own sores and those of your neighbors—not for condemnation, but for healing, as a physician. And if you do not do this, then know: you are already condemned, despite all your orderliness, as a wicked servant who used the gift for evil toward his neighbor, thereby offending the One Who gave it.

Therefore, having the gift of good order, labor without sloth unto the glory of God, and for this purpose:

a) Do not be grieved at anyone: this is the voice of sinful self-love, hateful to God.

b) Do not be surprised when you encounter malice and injustice toward yourself. Remember: you are a physician, and those around you are sick; you are called to heal their souls and morals by sympathy, prayer, and the like, and not to seek love in return.

c) And if there is love in return, do not take consolation in it, lest you lose heavenly love and forget your calling.

d) Forget even yourself and your own happiness, as the Lord commanded, but seek the good and benefit of others in the name of God, and you will be warmed, as by a heavenly sun, by Divine love.

e) Watch not how others treat you, but how much you have succeeded in moving your neighbors toward good, in diminishing their malice and guile, and in warming their cold hearts with Christian sympathy.

f) When you see fruit, again do not exalt yourself, lest you ascribe God’s work to yourself and become clouded in mind to please the demon.

g) Blessed will you be if you love God with all your soul and your neighbor as yourself, while denying your very self; then with joy you will give yourself over to every labor and deprivation, consumed by holy love for people as children of God, in faith that by this you are serving God Himself, according to His unfailing word, and He Himself will love you and make His abode with you.

 

Russian source:

Господь не осудит смиренного: наставления преосвященного старца / архиеп. Варлаам (Ряшенцев), Samara Printing House, Samara, 2008.

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